What would Jesus do?
Don't get me wrong... I'm certainly not saying you shouldn't do things in your life that make you happy. I'm simply saying that this fake "independence" that is currently trending has made people cold-hearted. Of course, it is necessary that we all grow up and have our own lives; that's normal. Growing up does not mean growing cold. God didn't put us in this world to be alone. He also didn't mean for us to clam up and allow our light to be dimmed. He wants us to have companions and He especially wants us to find happiness through Him.
"No man is an island."
Thank goodness that Jesus didn't have this modern, independent view. It would've been so easy for Him to say, "Meh, dying for them won't make me happy. This is my life and I'll do with it as I please." Suddenly, all of our lives would be hopeless. We'd have nothing to live for or to look forward to in our afterlife. Just let that sink in...
"The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly." - John 10:10
Jesus was the most selfless person to walk the face of this earth. He made it possible to be saved. We can be Christians, which means being Christ-like. How can one be Christ-like, yet have a permanently selfish attitude toward life?
Let go and let God.
There's no way to have a cold heart and a warm spirit. When your heart is cold, everything is cold. Ephesians 4:18 says, "Having the understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God through the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart:" Don't let this attitude distance you from The Lord. Only God can understand the depths of your heart.
"I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you." - John 14:18
On a different note, this kind of attitude is particularly evident in feminist views. Women have the desire to be equal to men. In many cases, this has been taken to an extreme. It seems as if women are fighting to be dominant over men. This can't work because each gender has its strengths and weaknesses made for a specific duty in the household.
God created women to be the center of the household, which is incredibly rewarding. We have the honor of giving birth to children. We have the opportunity to be with a man we love and to spoil him to no end (which, in my opinion, is what a good wife should do.) We are helpers. We are motivators. We play a very important role.
"And the Lord God said, It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him an
help meet for him." - Genesis 2:18
God created men to be the head of the household. I refer back to my favorite movie, My Big Fat Greek Wedding, when I say, "The man is the head, but the woman is the neck and she can turn the head any way she wants." Men are supposed to be the dominant leader of the relationship, but they also have to be caring of their wife's needs. Colossians 3:19 says, "Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them." Men were placed in a very difficult role of taking care of us ladies and our offspring. I say that with the most love in the world.
"For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body." - Ephesians 5:23
With that being said, I believe it is necessary that ladies keep these roles in mind when in a dating relationship. I don't mean you should live together and act like you're married immediately. I'm talking about embracing your significant other as a prize; make them feel special and wanted. There's no room to be selfish or independent in a happy relationship... Especially a relationship founded on God.
In essence, let God in your heart. When we can accept God, we put aside our independence and give it all to Him. It's a new beginning. We can accept others into our hearts with warmth and create lasting, meaningful relationships. We will have children that will want to grow in God because they see how wonderful it is in they're parents' lives. Let your life be a light to all who you encounter.
One must seek God to have a warm heart. One must have a warm heart to be in a healthy, happy relationship.
Let's not embrace cold-hearted independence since that only plants seeds of dysfunction in our relationships. Let us embrace God in the hope of gaining a new heart and a new zeal for life. There's no room for anybody within a cold heart.
Show love, compassion, joy... There's nothing more refreshing than a happy heart that beats for God.
I want a heart for God - a heart that envelopes warmth and happiness.
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